Oprah Winfrey, one of the richest women in the world has opened up on her life, relationship and most importantly, why she never chose to have kids of her own.
The business woman explained that perhaps it is because she does not have that motherly instinct which every mother seemed to have. Hence, her decision not to have kids.
Oprah further disclosed that channeling her nurturing instincts toward people other than biological children, has made her the dynamo she is today and her success is based on her ability to relate to others.
Despite being often regarded as a major source of inspiration by many, the 64-year-old Media mogul and philanthropist, disclosed that she took the decision not to have kids because she doesn’t have motherly instincts, Independent News reports.
Oprah Winfrey, one of the most successful women in the world, further disclosed that raising kids would have been too frustrating and she would have been a terrible mother because she can’t communicate with anyone who cannot speak.
Talking about why she chose not to have children, she said:
“I don’t think I would have been a good mother for baby children, because I need you to talk to me, and I need you to tell me what’s wrong. I can’t just figure it out.
And I was always—I knew this about myself. I was always better with kids once they turned two-and-a-half, three, I had a real resonance with them. Gayle was like, “Don’t you love babies?” I was like, “Oh babies are fine.” … It didn’t feel like it was for me.
So I was searching even for that: What is the higher ground for me? Where will I be able to find my instinct for nurturing and caring and support for other people? Where will that show up for me, and how will that show up for me?”
I don’t have that parenting thing of: ‘You gotta do well, cause it makes me look good,’” says Winfrey. “I just have your highest well-being as my only agenda.
That, to me, is the ideal characteristic of a mother,” replies Paltrow. “And it’s so difficult … to not project and not see your own shortcomings in your kid and get triggered by it.
It’s so funny because you’re technically not a mother—and that is the most profound and insightful sentence about mothering. You just really crystallized something for me there.”